In almost every thought there is a choice. The most basic choice is whether to let this thought to go any further. We make a myriad of choices; some slight and seemingly insignificant and some monumental that can change the direction of our life. They all compound to build our identity and the attitudes we have to many aspects of our life.
When we are very young many choices are made for us but our reaction to those choices is our own. No two children will have the same reaction. As we mature we take over many of these life choices and even so as an adult we will respond in different ways.
What we may need to know is that we actually chose our current pathway before we came here, with the understanding that we were given free will. In that free will we are able, at any moment of our life, to change direction on that path. We always have a choice.
From time to time many people are offered an opportunity to change direction, to align with the purpose they chose for their physical life before they entered into separation. Then there are the two basic purposes: To enjoy every moment of this physical existence without bringing harm to another and to begin to find our self which is the great purpose. This one is more elusive but becomes more meaningful as we take opportunities to grow in our self awareness. These choices are entirely ours to take or not. There is no judgement.
So how do we measure choices? This may not be applicable in every situation but we can ask the question: "Does this choice serve me and does it bring me joy". We are under no obligation to take any of them. So choosing these opportunities and taking those which we feel would serve us best, or not serve us best, is what maps out our journey here in separation.
There is no judgement just opportunities for experience.
"Does this choice serve me and does it bring me joy".