The purpose of this whole creation is experience. The purpose of human life is experience. We experience the separation from Great Spirit with a gift of free choice. We experience the variations in physical life. Starting very dependent as a baby and slowly shaping our identity in our human circumstances. We experiences the various stage of adult life in relationships and in culture.
Without fully realising it, the great experience is the one we have with our self. This experience shapes all the others.
Not all experiences will be what we might desire. Many but not all our experiences come from opportunities and choices. Many experiences will be jolts to wake us up and encourage us to move on.
We should only consider our own life. It is far too complex to unravel the lives others are leading as we have no idea of their 'story', their original choice, their opportunities and their day to day choices. Usually opportunities are found in any experience, choices such as, do I want to change direction?
It is hard to say this but all experiences have value if shared with Great Mystery. At our level it is the wisdom or understanding we may have gained and not the memory that is important.
Traumatic experiences may not be easily resolved. Such experiences may have arisen because of a choice we made, a risk we took or even did not see because of a previous choice. The choices we have are totally free. That is a great gift but alas we are often not prepared. There may be an an opportunity to 'get back on track again' and move on. If we can take it, it could be of great benefit but it can take a lot of time and courage.
At a deeper level all human experiences are part of the evolution of human kind.
The great experience is the one we have with our self. This experience shapes all the others.